SEASON ONE: EPISODE NINE

The Lazy Narrative & it’s Impact on Women

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Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of self-criticism, thinking you're not doing enough, showing up enough, or even calling yourself "lazy"? If so, you're not alone. In today's world, where women are often expected to juggle everything and be everything to everyone, it's easy to feel like you're falling short. But what if that narrative we've been sold is a lie? What if there’s actually a powerful reason behind those moments when you feel "lazy"?

In this episode, I sit down with Rebecca Tolbert, LICSW, a Washington, D.C.-based mental health therapist and ADHD coach, to discuss how our society’s obsession with productivity and perfection can overshadow the true value of rest—and why that feeling of "lazy" could be a sign that your brilliance isn't being seen, valued, or supported.

Rebecca, whose work is dedicated to creating safe spaces for individuals to explore, heal, and grow, shares insights into the importance of slowing down, particularly for women and those with ADHD. She challenges the conventional notion that productivity defines your worth and highlights how pushing through burnout can leave your unique talents unrecognized and untapped.

What if instead of feeling guilty, you gave yourself permission to embrace rest? What if taking time to recharge was actually a way to unlock the creative, intelligent, and driven parts of you that get buried under constant pressure?

In this conversation, Rebecca offers a refreshing perspective on how our perceived "laziness" could be an invitation to reflect, rest, and reconnect with the parts of ourselves that deserve attention. Tune in to hear how stepping back might be exactly what you need to move forward—stronger, clearer, and more aligned with your true purpose. 

After all, rest isn’t the enemy of success; it’s often the very thing that fuels it.

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Guest: Rebecca Tolbert | IG: @adhd.harmony.coach | Website: Conscious Strides

Host: Dawne Hanks | IG: @dawnehanks & @eliminate_girl_hate & @wait.holdup.what

Sound Editing & Mixing: Epiphany Recording Studio | IG: @epiphany_recording_studio